"They say: everyone comes into our lives for a reason, a purpose". I am a black woman who has been a Social Worker for 14 years and a counsellor for 10 years. Whilst working has a Social Worker I had a deep wish to understand the client's pattern of behaviour and why most families kept repeating the same pattern.This led me to undertake further studies to become a therapist. It was clear from my experiences as both a Social Worker and therapist how important past relationships impact upon our life.Throughout my life I also have had life struggles and issues that have caused me pain, sadness and anger. However, with my training first as a Social Worker then a Therapist I have become more aware of my pattern of behaviour which has given me a more positive attitude to life struggles which we all encounter some time in our lives.